10 things your mom never told you

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Someone shared this list on Facebook, “10 things your mom never told you,” and every single point was true.

1) “You made her cry a lot.” 

I remember nights when I never made it in the house. I didn’t call or anything to even let here know if I was dead or alive. But when I hit the corner of our street, I could see she had been in that window looking for me day and night. Once I got into the door and called out, “Hi, Mom,” it always made her smile.

2) “She wanted that last piece of pie.”

I remember going out the house on one of my binge trips. While doing this, you don’t eat out there. All you think about is getting high and staying high. But when your body gets tired and worn out, you’re ready to go home. Back then, I didn’t buy no food or nothing. My mom basically took care of me. I was in my middle twenties. It wasn’t embarrassing then, but it’s embarrassing now. Anyway, sometimes she would buy the things that she liked for herself. Coming off a binge, you want plenty of sweets and plenty of water. Sometimes, it would be her last. But she never hesitated to let me eat it. You never think to buy it for yourself, but you’re always quick to eat it.

3) “It hurt.”

I remember one incident when I had gotten myself into some trouble. I was locked up but didn’t return to court. That left me with a bench warrant. So when they came to arrest me at my mom’s house, I hid in my mom’s closet with her suits. You can go to jail for harboring a fugitive. And I heard them tell her that. But me being on drugs, I didn’t understand — couldn’t understand. All I knew was that I was getting locked up. The last word I said to my mom that day was that I hate her. I think I got 30 days. And she came to see me on visiting days. Never missed a one. Put money on my books and everything. I told her that I didn’t mean it. But I think it still hurt.

4) “She was always afraid.”

Like I said, sometimes I stayed out for days, no call or nothing. I’m babygirl, so you know how that goes. All my little so-called buddies around the way use to always tell me she would ask them if they seen me or where I was at. Man, I worried my mother half to death for 20 years. She was afraid that one day I wouldn’t make it home.

5) “She knows she’s not perfect.”

My mom use to drink about a little over 25 years ago. So whenever she feels that times is right, she tells me about things she use to do to remind me, “Vennie, it’s not like I’m perfect. I made my mistake trying to help you not to do the same as I did.” But that’s not what we hear. We hear “You are my child and I never want you to grow up.”  

6) “She watched you as you slept.”

When I came home from being on the streets for three or four days, all I could do was crawl in my bed. She watched over me. She even fed me in bed because I was so sick and tired I couldn’t get up. AsI slept, I could feel her eyes on me, wondering if I was dead or alive.

7) “She carried you a lot longer than 9 months.”

Sure did, and she’s still carrying me today. If I need a new pair of shoes, or a bill is late, my mom is still right here.

8) “It broke her heart every time you cried.”

She always been here for me, through thick and thin. She’s always on the other line to listen and give her best opinion. And things always turn out the way she says they will. Everything will be OK in the end.

9) “She puts you first.”

Growing up, I remember getting a smack one time. But I overreacted. I ran away from home and told my mom I was never coming back I was about 12 years old. I was hardheaded and didn’t listen to what she said. She wrote me this long letter telling me how much she loved me and that she would never put her hands on me again. Remind you, my mom come from a family of old-fashioned rules and old-fashioned ways. But she put away all that for the new times just for me.

10) “She would do it all again.”

Every morning when I wake up, the first person I call is my mom. She say, “Good Morning, Sweets,” because she knows it’s me. When we talk, I can hear how much she loves me in the words and in her voice. She always say “goodnight” before we go to bed at night. We always say “I love you” to each other and get right in the bed. 

I love my 84-year-old mom. She’s love, she’s wisdom, and she’s mine. Love you, Mom. To all I say, stay safe and stay clean.

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